In recent months, India has been rocked by a series of chilling cases where women have killed their husbands, igniting fierce debate, outrage, and snap judgments. High-profile incidents involving Sonam Raghuvanshi in Indore, Muskan Rastogi in Meerut, and Radhika Ingle in Sangli have thrust this unsettling trend into the national consciousness, compelling us to ask why such extreme acts are occurring.
Banglalore lady Mamta G. W. urges, “Our response should go deeper than just surface-level arguments. To understand this, we need to go back a bit. Why are women now killing or harassing men?” While not condoning violence, this reflection pushes us to probe the societal pressures and emotional burdens that may drive women to such desperate measures. says Mamta
Mama furthur ads " The systemic struggles women face in India are profound and deeply entrenched. From the moment a girl is conceived, rejection often begins—“when she’s in the womb, everyone hopes for a boy. This isn’t a new issue; it’s been happening for years.” Society teaches women that their identity is secondary, their desires expendable. “They’re taught they have no identity of their own. Whether from big cities or small towns, every woman has her struggles and faces societal expectations.” From childhood, girls are conditioned to conform, forced to live by others’ rules, whether rich or poor. “From the moment a girl is born, she’s forced to live according to society’s ways. She has to suppress all her desires.” The constant refrain—*“Do whatever you want after marriage, but don’t tarnish our reputation at your in-laws’”—*stifles their autonomy. Rarely does anyone ask, “Are you happy, dear?” The text poignantly notes, “If fathers or families asked, ‘Are you happy, dear?’ thousands of families could be saved. says mamta
”Recent cases vividly illustrate this pent-up despair. In Indore, Sonam Raghuvanshi, married just weeks earlier on May 11, 2025, allegedly conspired with her lover and hired hitmen to murder her husband, Raja, during their honeymoon in Meghalaya. His body, hacked with a machete, was found in a gorge while Sonam feigned grief. In Meerut, Muskan Rastogi and her lover Sahil killed her husband, Saurabh Rajput, dismembered his body, and hid it in a cement-filled drum, using his phone to send misleading messages. In Sangli, Radhika Ingle, 27, killed her 54-year-old husband, Anil Lokhande, with an axe on Vat Purnima—a day symbolizing marital devotion—just three weeks after their wedding. Other cases, such as a wife in Bihar running over her husband with an SUV or another in Rajasthan pouring boiling oil on her sleeping husband, underscore the brutality of this trend.Data highlights the scale of this phenomenon. The 2022 National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) reported 220 husbands murdered by their wives, compared to 270 wives killed by husbands. While femicide remains a grave issue—6,000 women are killed annually over dowry disputes alone—the rise in women perpetrating spousal homicide is striking. Social media posts, such as those from activist Deepika Bhardwaj, claim 306 such cases in 2024, often tied to extramarital affairs, financial motives (e.g., securing jobs under dependent quotas), or retaliation against abuse.
Mamta challenges the selective outrage: “If a woman kills her husband today, it creates an uproar. But what about the thousands or millions of women who have been killed? Has anyone questioned that? We Indian women die a thousand deaths while living—has anyone thought about that?”
Experts identify a confluence of factors driving this trend. Dr. Bhargava, cited in a Times of India report, notes that women often kill when “threatened, desperate, or after years of abuse,” unlike men, who may kill for power. Mamta echoes this, suggesting that prolonged sufferi…
prolonged suffering can push women to the edge: “When women, after enduring all this, finally want to live for themselves and no longer wish to suppress their anger, expressing it is better than bottling it up.
As women gain education and financial independence, clashes with patriarchal norms intensify. “Wherever there’s a population on Earth, women are denied the freedom to live on their own terms.” A simple example: “When a girl gets pregnant, everyone asks, ‘Who’s the father?’ Does anyone ask, ‘How’s your health, dear?’” Psychological distress, worsened by India’s limited mental health resources, further fuels this crisis.Public reaction often lacks nuance, amplifying misogyny. Social media memes branding women as “deadly wives” vilify the entire gender, ignoring context.
Mamta add powerful assertion: “There must be a reason why she killed him. The question shouldn’t be that she killed him; it should be why she killed him.” This resonates deeply. Sociologist DN Sharma criticizes this double standard: “Men have committed thousands of murders, but if a woman does it, the entire gender is vilified.” Historical cases, like Kiranjit Ahluwalia’s in 1989, where an abused wife killed her husband, highlight how such acts often stem from prolonged trauma. The text’s plea for understanding is clear: “Girls should have the right to speak from childhood. Their wishes should be considered. If Suman’s family had let her marry according to her choice, three or four families wouldn’t be seeking answers today.”Addressing this crisis demands systemic change. Experts advocate early intervention, emotional education, and stronger enforcement of laws like the 2005 Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act.
Mamta call to “understand girls, let them live for themselves, not for others” aligns with this, urging society to empower women from childhood. Marital rape remains uncriminalized, and divorce carries heavy stigma, leaving women with few escape routes. By asking “why” rather than just condemning, society can address root causes—gender inequity, mental health neglect, and cultural pressures. Only by fostering equitable environments and amplifying women’s voices can India break this cycle of violence and prevent further tragedies. end Mamta
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